She Who Believes, Leads
“Confidence is a choice. Choose wisely.”
Hey Friend,
Not too long ago, I found myself mentally cueing the Beyoncé wind machine before walking into a boardroom. In my mind, I was walking in with hair blowing, spotlight on, fireworks going off and a full crowd of screaming fans!
Was I extra? Absolutely.
Was it necessary? Absolutely.
Sometimes leadership requires a lil’ performance energy. Not because you're being fake, but because you're reminding yourself who you are.
When the stakes are high, the inbox is out of control, and imposter syndrome whispers (or yells), “Are you sure you're supposed to be here?”…you better believe I’m channeling my inner Queen Bey, or heck, even Olivia Pope (minus the scandals).
We all have those alter egos - those powerful parts of us that we summon when the real-life version feels a little undercharged or on empty.
The key?
Knowing when to call them forward.
And also knowing when it’s time to come back to center.
So, this week, we’re talking (leadership) alter egos, the quiet cues your body gives you, and why being your own hype squad is a leadership essential.
Let’s gooooo.
ON THE RADAR
The Not-So-Obvious Things That Are Actually Draining You
You’re showing up (check). You’re holding it down (check).
But if you’re not careful, you’ll mistake “productivity” for peace.
Here’s what I’ve been noticing in my world, and maybe yours too:
The “performance” of confidence is exhausting when you haven’t poured into the real you lately. Put the following on your to-do list, smack dab at the top spot, and say it out loud a few times: I will pour into myself!
Saying yes when your gut says no is a trust issue, not with others, but with yourself.
Wearing your alter ego too long (aka - not being authentically you) leaves the real you undernourished and under-seen.
Over-functioning for others might make you a “go-to,” but at what cost?
This week, take inventory…not of your tasks, but of your truths.
What’s fueling you… and what’s quietly (or not so quietly) depleting your light?
ICYMI: Resources to Recharge & Reflect
"If someone has doubts of your potential, remember to always say: I object!”
Elle Woods
MOVIE: Legally Blonde (2001)
Before you roll your eyes, hear me out. Elle Woods might’ve looked like she belonged in a salon or a Barbie movie, but she did have Harvard Law on her résumé and a killer bend-and-snap! This film is the ultimate alter ego pep talk. It reminds us that (your unique) style, smarts, and self-belief can (and should) coexist. Watch it when you need to hype yourself up before the meeting, the next pitch, or the season you weren’t quite ready for but find yourself navigating through.
QUIZ: What’s Your Personality Type? – VisualDNA
This interactive quiz is a fun, insightful way to check in with yourself and uncover some self-awareness gold. It uses images instead of words (perfect for when your brain is tired but your soul needs a spark).
PODCAST: Closing the Confidence Gap with Kelli Thompson – The Leadership Podcast
Kelli breaks down how women and men alike often give away their power, why authentic confidence isn’t a show, and the value of knowing when to say “I don’t know.” A powerful, grounded listen. Available here on Apple Podcasts
Something to Sit With
"Which version of me do I need to call forward right now and is she showing up for me, or for the performance?"
Your alter ego is a tool, not a mask.
Use her wisely. She’s powerful.
But don’t forget…you’re the power source.
ON THE HORIZON
A Leadership Experience Like No Other
If The Friday FWD has ever made you pause, nod your head, or feel a little more seen, you’re going to love what’s coming next.
A community-centered, soul-filled leadership program?
Strategy meets wellness? Mentorship meeting momentum? Real talk & real transformation?
Yes, please!
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Before We Go:
Here’s to hair blowing in the wind, spirits rising, and stepping fully into your magic.
Cue the lights. You’ve got this.
And just so you know - you might already be giving main character energy to someone else’s storyline…even if you don’t know who!
Sending you boldness & backup dancers,
